Is it just me? Or do other people get swamped by how many battles there are to fight?
I admit, before my family tell you, I am a stubborn, opinionated ‘dog with a bone’ at times. I’m passionate (as you’ll know if you followed my Passions Profile Challenge a while back) and I feel strongly when I see things that I don’t think are right or fair. When I see people being treated badly I want to jump up and down and tell the whole world that it is wrong.
The thing is though that I know I can’t fight every battle I see. It’s actually not good for my health, mental or physical. And if I ranted here about absolutely every battle, I suspect I’d lose readers pretty quickly. If I fight every battle then I end up just being ignored because “she’s just at it again“. I am probably already gaining myself a reputation that I’d really rather not have. I dont’ want the ‘crazy’ label. I want people to say “she makes a good point“.
Yesterday was one of those days where I was bombarded with things on social media and news sites that I just ‘had’ to fight back. Thankfully I was a little wise and saw the pattern. I did fight back on one issue, but I stepped away and breathed instead on the rest. Except I was still frustrated because people were being treated badly, portrayed badly, or money was being wasted on things that just don’t seem right. By the end of the day I was exhausted simply from having it all in my head.
Here’s a list of some of the things going around, and around in my head yesterday:
1. Fixing children’s paddling pools gets priority in earthquake recovery in my city over people getting homes to live in.
2. One young person’s suicide is highlighted (irresponsibly in my view) by the media and mental health organisations over, and over again taking the focus away from what really matters. She’s not the only one. How do we handle this responsibly, with thought given to others who might read but are suffering themselves from bullying, self harm, depression and suicidal thoughts?
3. A person labelling another as ‘sick and twisted’ (among other things) because they didn’t like their actions. Both people are likely to have mental illnesses.
4. Churches prioritise spending millions of dollars on ornate buildings to ‘worship God’ when (I think) they should be prioritising expenditure on feeding the poor and hungry. This applies to governments too.
5. A young person wants to give up the fight for her life (again) because she can’t get adequate help from mental health services.
6. Fancy sports stadiums are more important than people who need food, shelter, safety.
I won’t go on because I’m sure you’re getting the idea. Issues of earthquake recovery in my city leave me more, and more disturbed because individual people’s needs are not important. Maybe I’m a biased on that partly because my needs don’t get a look in on that front either, but there are so many people much worse off than me.
And mental illness (and yes, I’m choosing to use the term mental illness rather than mental health purposely because this is making people sick… or dead), especially concerning stigma and the media’s portrayal of it just sickens me.
But for the sake of my own health I have to draw the line. I can’t fight every battle, but I want to. I feel strongly about all these things, and what I hate is that from each of these issues and more, there are individuals suffering.
Today my fibromyalgia has flared up again. Certainly yesterday was an dificult day because it had been my Dad’s birthday, but this is what fibro does to me. The emotional stress inside converts to physical pain, brain fog and fatigue. I know myself well enough to know that probably both things contributed to today’s reality.
So I’m wondering? Do other people struggle like this? How do you choose wisely what battles to fight? How do you rest easy if you choose not to fight a battle?
“Unless someone like you cares a whole awful lot, Nothing is going to get better. It’s not.”
~Dr. Seuss, The Lorax
“He who passively accepts evil is as much involved in it as he who helps to perpetrate it. He who accepts evil without protesting against it is really cooperating with it.”
― Martin Luther King Jr.
- The Passions Profile Challenge (infinitesadnessorhope.wordpress.com)
- Loose Ends At The Start of Mental Health Awareness Week (infinitesadnessorhope.wordpress.com)